The “We Need to Talk” Conundrum

Why is it that when you want to talk to your mate about the relationship a dark and stormy cloud rolls in? It sets the stage for some terrible shit to go down. I dont like it!!!
Is this why it seens that men(not all…just a big sum) either don’t like or have an especially hard time communicating?
Why bother fearing the unknown?  Some good may come out of it all. Relationships can be broken but they can also be strengthened.